Texted by lawyer this morning:
November 22nd.
I hope everything goes well.
Thursday, September 20, 2007
Wednesday, September 19, 2007
Delays
As if the anxiety couldn't get more intense, Inaki told me this morning that his lawyer will have to ask the court tomorrow to reset the last hearing. The psychiatrist, the last witness, had to conduct an emergency surgery tomorrow morning. This means, that the next hearing could be six or seven months away.
This is so not fair. In the last hearing last April, the next schedule was September 17. Bright and early last Monday, the psychiatrist, the lawyer and Inaki were there. Then the judge decided to move them on September 20.
And now this. The psychiatrist made himself available for Monday. Nobody expected the sudden and ridiculous change in schedule to tomorrow.
DAMMIT!!!!
I'm hormonal and angry and pissed. I'm so upset, that I want Inaki to file an adultery case against the adulterous wife, so she'll get disbarred. To give her a big enough stigma that will prevent her from landing her dream job at the UN, and may cause problems for her scholarships and other career endeavors.
I'm feeling petty today. Because I want her to feel a fraction of the frustration and heartache Inaki and I are going through. While she gets around with all sorts of guys, manages to get herself pregnant and get a son (and Inaki and I are so unable to have one yet until we're married), gets all the coveted scholarships and remains to have the prestige as the "perfect woman who has it all" in UPM and the rowing team.
Ok. Breathe. Breathe.
Now, that I've gotten that out of my system.
I'm sure that there's a good reason why there's a delay. All I can do at the moment is pray, and hope for the best. (Should I expect the worse?)
But I want to spend the rest of my life with him as his wife. (*sob!)
This is so not fair. In the last hearing last April, the next schedule was September 17. Bright and early last Monday, the psychiatrist, the lawyer and Inaki were there. Then the judge decided to move them on September 20.
And now this. The psychiatrist made himself available for Monday. Nobody expected the sudden and ridiculous change in schedule to tomorrow.
DAMMIT!!!!
I'm hormonal and angry and pissed. I'm so upset, that I want Inaki to file an adultery case against the adulterous wife, so she'll get disbarred. To give her a big enough stigma that will prevent her from landing her dream job at the UN, and may cause problems for her scholarships and other career endeavors.
I'm feeling petty today. Because I want her to feel a fraction of the frustration and heartache Inaki and I are going through. While she gets around with all sorts of guys, manages to get herself pregnant and get a son (and Inaki and I are so unable to have one yet until we're married), gets all the coveted scholarships and remains to have the prestige as the "perfect woman who has it all" in UPM and the rowing team.
Ok. Breathe. Breathe.
Now, that I've gotten that out of my system.
I'm sure that there's a good reason why there's a delay. All I can do at the moment is pray, and hope for the best. (Should I expect the worse?)
But I want to spend the rest of my life with him as his wife. (*sob!)
Tuesday, September 18, 2007
Uncertainty
I am uncertain whether I should start doing research about weddings.
I'm so excited. But it's marred by the fact that we're unsure whether there'll be a wedding at all; whether the annulment will be granted.
I was hurt when I heard Inaki say that he was scared whenever I brought up the subject of marriage. I was hurt even more when he snapped at me, when I asked how the text was at his wedding invitation.
It got to the point, where I decided we shouldn't get married anymore.
But. He asked me to marry him. And I said yes. I couldn't imagine our life together any other way.
And I'm on tenterhooks over the annulment. And I can't stop looking at wedding websites and browsing through gowns, invitation, cakes and favors.
I hope everything works out for us.
I'm so excited. But it's marred by the fact that we're unsure whether there'll be a wedding at all; whether the annulment will be granted.
I was hurt when I heard Inaki say that he was scared whenever I brought up the subject of marriage. I was hurt even more when he snapped at me, when I asked how the text was at his wedding invitation.
It got to the point, where I decided we shouldn't get married anymore.
But. He asked me to marry him. And I said yes. I couldn't imagine our life together any other way.
And I'm on tenterhooks over the annulment. And I can't stop looking at wedding websites and browsing through gowns, invitation, cakes and favors.
I hope everything works out for us.
Monday, September 17, 2007
Last Hearing
I am anxiously waiting for September 20. Inaki will have his last hearing on that date on his pending annulment case. Early this year, he already attended a few hearings. He took the stand himself to testify about how his wife failed to fulfill her part of the marriage and how devastated he was of the whole sordid affair. I've also driven him to meetings with the psychiatrist, the administrative head of the infamous mental facility in Mandaluyong. The good doctor did find his wife incapable of fulfilling her marital obligations and should therefore be grounds for a ruling in Inaki's favor.
On the whole, it's been nerve-wracking for me. I was confident from the start that the annulment would be granted. I am speaking of course from the fact that our government is one that can be easily bribed. However, as time progressed and Inaki and I talked about it, there were a lot of complications that had to be dealt with like collusion, overloaded court dockets and embellished evidence. There were a few times in the beginning when his wife would call him and asked Ranma to do certain things for her like having something mailed to his house. But Ranma refused because it might be seen as collusion.
Blast her.
At the beginning, I thought we could get married this year, because annulment cases normally stretch for a year. But due to the judge's full court schedules, hearings were at least six months apart. Inaki says that the earliest possible time to get the ruling would be December of this year. Now, I'm thinking we can get married around the third quarter of next year. Hoping fiercely. With my fingers crossed. And my toes as well.
On the whole, it's been nerve-wracking for me. I was confident from the start that the annulment would be granted. I am speaking of course from the fact that our government is one that can be easily bribed. However, as time progressed and Inaki and I talked about it, there were a lot of complications that had to be dealt with like collusion, overloaded court dockets and embellished evidence. There were a few times in the beginning when his wife would call him and asked Ranma to do certain things for her like having something mailed to his house. But Ranma refused because it might be seen as collusion.
Blast her.
At the beginning, I thought we could get married this year, because annulment cases normally stretch for a year. But due to the judge's full court schedules, hearings were at least six months apart. Inaki says that the earliest possible time to get the ruling would be December of this year. Now, I'm thinking we can get married around the third quarter of next year. Hoping fiercely. With my fingers crossed. And my toes as well.
